If you’re a PUA or ‘pick up artist’ you may be dealing with a lot of anxiety when it comes to approaching women in bars, venues or nightclubs.
Is the solution to your anxiety just in doing even MORE approaches?
That would ‘SEEM’ to be the answer or the right thing to do. It seems logical that you have to ‘keep approaching’ women.
But wait a minute, why is it that a ‘natural’ can approach the same women who consistently reject you and get attraction without using any conscious ‘game’ at all?
For one, the natural didn’t have any anxiety. He automatically knows that he is ‘worthy’ of women. He is their equal and opposite.
He is confident. He has no fear. Those women aren’t on a pedestal to him and he can ‘take ‘em or leave ‘em’.
Most of what I teach is evolved beyond ‘the game’. It’s for PUA’s who have been in the trenches, failed a lot and realized the whole thing is ridiculous: you shouldn’t have to do all that WORK and go through all of that pain in order to get dates.
Unfortunately the belief system of ‘the game’ can really mess up a man’s mind and keep him stuck for years. Many have told me they were worse off once they started ‘the game’ and making everything a conscious game of manipulation.
Most of my students are more mainstream guys because a lot of what I teach is the LAST thing that PUA’s want to hear (that their entire belief system is fake, unnatural and a founded on a fantasy).
But if you are a PUA who is ready to evolve to a more natural, powerful, authentic version of yourself and getting rid of ‘game’ to see even more success with attraction and singles dating, then consider looking into my materials.
I teach about natural empowerment so that you don’t need any ‘game’ and I also teach you how to dissipate all of your physiological fear with women so that you CAN just approach, talk about the basics and go for a simple, direct number close.
This isn’t something you can do learning from mPUA’s who still have approach anxiety themselves. How can you ever cure YOUR anxiety if what they are doing hasn’t cured theirs?
What I teach is beyond ‘inner and outer game’ and is about empowerment. You can find out more @ Rion Williams
So let me give you some advice right now whether you’re a PUA, recovering PUA or just a guy who has anxiety and is struggling with meeting women.
1. You ARE worthy of beautiful women.
2. Meeting women is a natural thing.
3. You are powerful.
Ok but don’t those ‘beliefs’ seem like a lie? In fact, don’t they create even more ANXIETY around women (and I’ll tell you why)?
If all you experience is continual rejection, hard work and that you AREN’T worthy by these hot club girls, it’s hard to believe. Why?
Partly because you are looking in the wrong places and the social influence of consumer fantasy in clubs is so strong but mostly because of your beliefs. It comes down to your belief system and your beliefs SPECIFICALLY which have to do with sexuality.
It’s about what your body and energy believes = sexuality and that predicts what you’ll attract.
If you believe in the ‘game’ map of sexuality, you are already limited to that belief system and it’s values. In that belief system you are NOT worthy of women because you are playing a social GAME in which these women have higher SOCIAL (we didn’t say sexual) value than you.
It is not a sexual game and it is not a NATUARL game. It is not real. The ‘map’ of the ‘game’ leads and directs all of your actions based on your beliefs. That’s why it’s so difficult and takes years to get good at it (like taking the long way around).
You believe the fantasy of sexploitation = the path to the real thing while failing to realize that none of it represents the physical path of attraction or mutual seduction. So you just find it difficult to really CONNECT with women and they’re still on this pedestal where your energy already tells them you’re not worthy.
The belief of sexploitation = sex is like having a wrong or mislabeled map…it just doesn’t work no matter how much you do. You follow the map but it’s values are not the same as the physical map of attraction or seduction.
So you keep being lost, believing in the map even though it’s not getting you where you want to go. Thus the anxiety. Maybe you ought to stop following the wrong map!
You keep approaching women yet what happens? They continue being an out of touch FANTASY and you rarely get ‘physical’ with them. Why? Because ‘the game’ is a social fantasy with fantasy, non-physical values of sexploitation. It’s about money and business that the clubs and vendors are profiting off of.
The MAP you have is defining what you think, do and attract but it’s actually a map for something else (the fantasy).
But you continue believing it’s all ‘real’ because you’re physically ‘there’ in the middle of the fantasy like being in a Las Vegas strip club. Even if it looks like sex, it just isn’t…it’s not the path to attraction or getting close to women.
Realize that ‘the game’ is self-perpetuating and is shielded within itself. PUA ‘bootcamps’ reinforce the values and beliefs of that system which are social values and non-sexual. The entire belief system is unnatural and that’s why it’s so difficult.
Spending time with online PUA forums will KEEP you stuck and trapped within that limited and non-sexual frame of reality.
Because you aren’t worthy, meeting women IS unnatural and you just AREN’T powerful, you continually have anxiety and fail with women no matter how much approaching you do.
But if you have a different belief system and don’t believe in ‘the game’ of social dynamics and manipulation, you can go in the same environment like a natural and have far more consistent results. You just have to have a more accurate MAP of sexuality (one in which you CAN believe the self-affirmations).
It all comes down to your MAP or belief system of sexuality. It is what you are ‘following’ and since it (the game) rarely leads to physical relationships with women because it is fantasy and social based, you continue to do all the things that repel them without knowing it, no MATTER how hard you’re working.
No amount of PUA training within the framework of ‘the game’ will consistently work because it’s based on disempowerment and social manipulation of what is a natural process. True you can warp and influence the social dynamics to your favor (like buying bottle service in the VIP) but that still doesn’t mean things will get ‘physical’ and can actually be even worse because women use you for money.
So it’s the entire ‘map’ of the ‘game’ and that belief of sexuality that is keeping PUA’s from real success with attraction, fearlessness and meeting women.
When you have a natural map or ‘blueprint’ of sexuality and attraction, you fully believe in those 3 affirmations and the power of nature and physical attraction is on your side. Also understand there ARE other belief systems than just believing in ‘the game’ (take naturals for example).
It’s not even ‘you’ that’s the problem, it’s your beliefs…you could have just had the wrong ‘map’ all the time.
So instead of approaching 1,000′s of women hardly getting anywhere, why don’t you consider working smarter instead of harder?
Naturals communicate differently and we connect with women without fear or anxiety thus the possibilities of a physical relationship open up much faster than running a monkey’s game.
It’s how naturals and others like me can go in a place and outperform PUA’s with meeting women, never have anxiety and we get interest and attraction from women WITHOUT GAME. So, keep believing in the made-up ‘game’ if you want but you’re limited to it’s confines and rules, none of which are sexual by natural definition.
If you value the fantasy, keep playing the game because that is what you’ll get more of. It’s kind of the harsh reality and the carrot is kept out in front of you like a mule. If you value real relationships with women and want to cure your anxiety and get attraction from women, I encourage you to seek more information.
Are you sick of the games, running in circles and ready for empowerment and evolution with attraction? Learn how to cure your own approach anxiety in 3 steps @ Cure Approach Anxiety